Sunday, November 27, 2011

A Little White Envelope ~ Touching Christmas Tradition

Hi! :D Happy Holiday Season! I am really looking forward to spending cherished time with my family as we enjoy established family traditions together... as well as the lights, music, and cheer of the Christmas Season, and the fun of starting new traditions for my teens! :) I'm sure I will be sharing some of this with you. But before writing about my own family's traditions I would like to share with you an especially touching story of another family's Christmas tradition. Should you choose to read this, prepare to be inspired! ;)

Corine :D

A Little White Envelope

It's just a small, white envelope stuck among the branches of our Christmas tree. No name, no identification, no inscription. It has peeked through the branches of our tree for the past 10 years or so.

It all began because my husband Mike hated Christmas--- oh, not the true meaning of Christmas, but the commercial aspects of it...overspending...the frantic running around at the last minute to get a tie for Uncle Harry and the dusting powder for Grandma...the gifts given in desperation because you couldn't think of anything else.

Knowing he felt this way, I decided one year to bypass the usual shirts, sweaters, ties and so forth. I reached for something special just for Mike. The inspiration came in an unusual way.

Our son Kevin, who was 12 that year, was wrestling at the junior level at the school he attended; and shortly before Christmas, there was a non-league match against a team sponsored by an inner-city church. These youngsters, dressed in sneakers so ragged that shoestrings seemed to be the only thing holding them together, presented a sharp contrast to our boys in their spiffy blue and gold uniforms and sparkling new wrestling shoes. As the match began, I was alarmed to see that the other team was wrestling without headgear, a kind of light helmet designed to protect a wrestler's ears. It was a luxury the ragtag team obviously could not afford.

Well, we ended up walloping them. We took every weight class. And as each of their boys got up from the mat, he swaggered around in his tatters with false bravado, a kind of street pride that couldn't acknowledge defeat. Mike, seated beside me, shook his head sadly, "I wish just one of them could have won," he said. "They have a lot of potential, but losing like this could take the heart right out of them."

Mike loved kids-all kids-and he knew them, having coached little league football, baseball and lacrosse. That's when the idea for his present came.

That afternoon, I went to a local sporting goods store and bought an assortment of wrestling headgear and shoes and sent them anonymously to the inner-city church. On Christmas Eve, I placed the envelope on the tree, the note inside telling Mike what I had done and that this was his gift from me. His smile was the brightest thing about Christmas that year and in succeeding years.

For each Christmas, I followed the tradition---one year sending a group of mentally handicapped youngsters to a hockey game, another year a check to a pair of elderly brothers whose home had burned to the ground the week before Christmas, and on and on.

The envelope became the highlight of our Christmas. It was always the last thing opened on Christmas morning and our children, ignoring their new toys, would stand with wide-eyed anticipation as their dad lifted the envelope from the tree to reveal its contents.

As the children grew, the toys gave way to more practical presents, but the envelope never lost its allure.

The story doesn't end there. You see, we lost Mike last year due to dreaded cancer. When Christmas rolled around, I was still so wrapped in grief that I barely got the tree up. But, Christmas Eve found me placing an envelope on the tree, and in the morning, it was joined by three more.

Each of our children, unbeknownst to the others, had placed an envelope on the tree for their dad. The tradition has grown and someday will expand even further with our grandchildren standing around the tree with wide-eyed anticipation watching as their fathers take down the envelope.

Mike's spirit, like the Christmas spirit, will always be with us.


If anyone knows the author of this, I'd like to link to her page if she has one and also give credit to her. This is one of the most touching traditions I've ever read.

See website to where I found this story below...

http://www.annien.com/Holidays/Christmas/ChristmasTraditions/christmas_traditions.html

5 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing that Corine! I've not heard this story before and it brought a tear to my eye. What a wonderful way to celebrate Christmas. I'm sad that Mike was lost to cancer. That part breaks my heart. This was just what I needed to get me into the right spirit of Christmas. Thank you. ~ Hugs ~

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  2. I couldn't finish reading this without tearing up. True or not, it demonstrates the true meaning of Christmas.

    Thank you for sharing.

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  3. Awesome! I love stories like this.
    Sandy

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  4. I am a man and sometimes put on the tough male mantel but I tell you this story brought a couple tears to my eyes. Going to make this a tradition :)

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  5. Oh that is soo moving. Tearing up at work

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